Most cases involving intractable contact disputes centre around parental alienation.
This is a very difficult field to get right and this situation has arisen because of the childrens act where the discernable wishes and feelings of the child are taken into consideration. This leads to a lot of pressure on the child to answer in a particular way by the resident parent.
Sometimes it is deliberate in that the residing parent will coach the child to say he doesn’t want contact or worse to corroborate false allegations. At other times, the child takes on board all the bad remarks the resident parent has about the other parent and develops beliefs based on those ‘opinions’. And finally, in other cases, the resident parent although they may not overtly criticise the other parent they may by body language and intonation convey a sinister impression of the other parent and show approval when the child denigrates the other parent.
What happens to children of parental alienation when adults?
1. Low self-esteem stemming from feeling unloved by a formerly loved parent and that parent’s relatives. The low self-esteem also was derived from the child’s own self-hatred; that is, by needing to hate a parent, the child was induced to hate a part of himself or herself.
2. Guilt toward the targeted parent for the callous treatment that he or she had shown in childhood.
3. Depression about having lost this important relationship during childhood and about the loss of childhood itself.
4. A lack of trust in oneself and others. Everything the adult child had believed about his or her parents was distorted and people were not who they appeared to be.
|The author is the UK leading authority on parental alienation. He is widely known in the legal community. It would be very difficult to get him as an expert in your court case because he would be rejected by the mother’s solicitor.|